Learning to Commit to a Goal…

From the Desk of Mr. Huett…
I hope your 2013 is off to a wonderful start! I am hoping that all of those New Years
Resolutions are being pursued with energy and passion! To kick off February I wanted to
share a brief story highlighting one of our students in regards to goal setting. This
particular student took a much different approach to setting a goal than I’ve seen from
students in the past and I can say that he is being highly effective and already on a
path of achievement.
Before I tell you what he’s doing differently, I want to reinforce the reason that
achieving a goal is important. Years ago I was meeting with a student that had just earned
his Gold belt. This student showed an interest in Karate, had a supportive family, and I
was confident that he would be able to earn his Blackbelt. After laying out the requirements
of becoming a Blackbelt (hard work, coming to class each week, practicing, etc.) I asked
the student and parents if they were ready to commit to the goal of earning a Blackbelt.
I realize that most kids say ‘Yes, Mr. Huett I want to become a Blackbelt’ and that’s why
I always ask parents to be at the meeting.
In usual fashion the boy gave me all the answers that I needed to hear. However, when
I asked if they were ready to commit to this goal the parents paused, looked at their son,
and said, “Do you want to do this? You know it will take several years and you’ll have to
come to class.” I applaud these parents for having the discussion, but the boy didn’t answer
as expected. He said, “Y – e – s” with a bit of hesitation. It was enough hesitation for
the parents to not sign him up. The family then left and I never saw them again.
I was surprised that the parents had left the entire decision up to their son. All I
could think about was the next time he didn’t want to do something–go to school, go to
the doctor, eat fruits and vegetables, would his parents would allow him to dictate those
outcomes as well? I’ve never been a proponent of enrolling into Karate if there was no
interest, but for a motivated student I strongly believe making a commitment to earning a
Blackbelt has so many invaluable life lessons. Is it going to be a time commitment? YES!
Will your child tell you they don’t want to go some days? YES! Will there be some days that
you have a million-and-one things to do and don’t want to bring your child? YES!
However, will your child gain self-esteem? YES! Self-Control? YES Learn Self-Defense?
YES! Develop better self-discipline? YES! Newsflash: Anything in life that is worth achieving
will take hard work, determination, and commitment and there are NO exceptions to this
rule unless you win the lottery! Isn’t it better to learn this lesson in youth so that
as an adult you have this skill set and understanding?
Ok, so fast-forward to the student that I recently met with regarding goal setting and
what is different about how he is achieving his goal of earning his next belt by June 2013.
First, his father scheduled a time to meet with our instructors in order for him to (1) share
his goal, (2) set a time-line, and (3) get guidance from the instructors. The main difference
in their approach was that his dad has taken the time to get involved, make a plan, and help
him to achieve his plan. It’s taken a good chunk of time out of his schedule, but the student
is almost assured that he will reach his goal. The lesson here is to take your involvement in
the goal setting process to the next level. Sit down and help your child set a goal, set a
time-line, and make a plan. This will help ensure that your child is successful. As your child
achieves his or her goals, your child will LEARN that achievement in life is really a matter
of determination, planning, and follow through.
Let’s make 2013 the best year ever!

Mr. Huett